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I had a very interesting discussion today with my classmates. One of them mentioned she wants to be a speech therapist… And proceed to complain that our Deaf teacher, who taught us the class called Deaf culture, is really biased.
"Like, she acts like we are some evil beings! It’s not fair, not all speech therapists are like she describes…"
"Well, it’s because she has only bad experience, it’s understandable," I said.
"But that was in the past! It’s not like it anymore, situation has improved!"
I looked at her like she lost her mind. “Of course it’s still like that! I have met too many people who were exactly like she described… The situation maybe improved, but not that much. More than half of profesionals I met treated me like shit.”
Of course, she didn’t believe me. It was like I didn’t speak at all.
If only it was one case… But I got this attitude from too many people. When I mention some situation I was in or the way some people treated me, they don’t believe me. They are surprised. They say things like:” Surely, you are mistaken…”
They don’t want to believe it.
And I want to shout, you are the problem. I lived through all this shit and you have no clue what it’s like, but when I talk about it, you still think you know better than I do.
I have met too many people in special need education field, or generally people in fields that are supposed to help us… who have this attitude.
I am starting to hate them, Hate people who are supposed to be helping us… Because they don’t listen. They don’t want to hear my opinion, they don’t see me as a person.
And I think that’s the problem.
You see, ordinary people with no education in these things, they treat me like a human being. They are often more cautios, more ignorant or they don’t know how to react to my presence, but they listen. When I explain something to them, they take it to heart.
But people in helping fields? Too often, they don’t see me as a human being. They see me like a problem that needs to be solved. Like a little kid without opinion and mind of her own. Like a little helpless animal that needs to be protected.
Too often I get an attitude: “Well, I worked with disabled people all my life, I know better what they need than disabled people themselves!”
I don’t trust their reasons. When someone says that he/she wants to work with disabled people, I don’t admire them. I think: And why? Are you really that good person, or you just want to feel good about yourself?
And I bet you want to shout: “But not all people are like that! You shouldn’t generalize!”
That’s true. But I will generalize. Because when I say “only some people do it”, everyone will think they are those people. “Oh sure, some people, but not me..”
If you work with disabled people, I want you to look into your heart and ask yourself…
When was the last time you asked disabled person for an opinion? When was the last time you asked them if they want help and how the help should look like? When was the last time you read a book about disability written by someone who was disabled? When was your last lecture given by someone with personal experience?
Do you listen?
Face it, no matter how many books you read, how many lectures you attend, you will never understand what it’s truly like. So try to listen. It’s the only way.
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You know what the Green Heron is basically the best heron because it is like 90% neck so when it is all folded down it looks like a giant head with wings and legs
but then suddenly ZOOP
fucking green herrons
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THIS IS THE GREATEST ARTICLE I HAVE EVER READ
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so much love and respect and admiration for young feminists. teenage feminists that are learning and sharing their knowledge and speaking up. that takes a kind of courage i never had as a teenager. it’s already scary as fuck being a teenage girl and when you add feminism to the mix, like…god. you girls are so badass i love all of you
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The concern for overly exposed young bodies may be well-intentioned. With society fetishizing girls at younger and younger ages, girls are instructed to self-objectify and see themselves as sexual objects, something to be looked at. A laundry list of problems can come from obsessing over one’s appearance: eating disorders, depression, low self-worth. Who wouldn’t want to spare her daughter from these struggles?
But these dress codes fall short of being legitimately helpful. What we fail to consider when enforcing restrictions on skirt-length and the tightness of pants is the girls themselves—not just their clothes, but their thoughts, emotions, budding sexuality and self-image.
Instead, these restrictions are executed with distracted boys in mind, casting girls as inherent sexual threats needing to be tamed. Dress restrictions in schools contribute to the very problem they aim to solve: the objectification of young girls. When you tell a girl what to wear (or force her to cover up with an oversized T-shirt), you control her body. When you control a girl’s body—even if it is ostensibly for her “own good”—you take away her agency. You tell her that her body is not her own.
When you deem a girl’s dress “inappropriate,” you’re also telling her, “Because your body may distract boys, your body is inappropriate. Cover it up.” You recontextualize her body; she now exists through the male gaze.
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